What can you do if you are being bullied?
Tell someone! It's not your fault.
- No one deserves to be bullied. It is not your fault.
- Keep yourself safe: Stay close to other kids or adults who will stick up for you. Stay in areas where you feel safe.
- Use your words assertively, they can be disarming: "Stop."
- Walk away. Don't fight back. It could escalate the situation. You could be seen as the instigator, or part of the problem.
- Tell someone- a trusted teacher, a friend, a parent. It IS a big deal. You don't have to face it alone, you aren't alone. Find someone who will listen.
- How can you enlist others to help? Start a school initiative with others, approach the school principal, link with bullying prevention organizations.
What can you do if you have been bullying others?
You don't have to like everyone, but you do have to respect everyone.
- Bullying is a behavior and behaviors can change. It's never too late. Don't label yourself or others.
- If you've been hurt before, bullying won't help make you feel better. We all deserve to feel safe.
- Talk to an adult. Find other activities that you enjoy and make you feel good about yourself.
- Be brave - apologize to the person you have bullied.
- Different doesn't mean better or worse. Different just means different. We are ALL different.
- Be a true leader - treat everyone with respect.
Be a friend
Join a program
Create a program
Be a role model
- Stomp Out Bullying
- Bully Bust: Promoting a Community of Upstanders
- Bystander Revolution: Take the Power Out of Bullying
- Anti-defamation League
- GLSEN (Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network)
- KIDS - stopbullying.gov
- PACER.org - Get Involved
- PACER Center's Kids Against Bullying
- PACER Center's Teens Against Bullying
- It Gets Better Project
- Parents, Family, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (W-S Chapter)
- GirlsHealth.gov: Be Healthy. Be Happy. Be you. Beautiful.
If you need a safe place to talk. If you feel helpless or hopeless, you are not alone. Tell someone.HELP IS HERE NOW.
What can you do if you see bullying?
Don't just stand there. Most bullying is stopped when a peer intervenes.
- Ask the bully to stop. Sometimes, all it takes is one voice to stop bullying. And sometimes people don't realize their actions are harmful.
- Don't join in. Watching, laughing, spreading stories, or retelling what happened contributes to and can escalate bullying.
- Help the person get away. If you can do so safely, stand with the person or help them move away. If it isn't safe, go call for help.
- Tell an adult. Sometimes it's hard to talk about being bullied, but bullying can be very serious. Help by letting an adult know what's happening.
- Be a friend. Tell them it's not their fault. Let them know you care and that they are not alone. Be company, share your time and space.
- Get others to step in. It's harder to bully a group of people standing in solidarity. There is some safety in numbers.