If a child tells you s/he is being bullied:
Do NOT tell them to stand up to the bullying.
It's not the child's fault, nor their responsibility to stop bullying.
Instead, try to teach them to be assertive (not aggressive).
Encourage her/him to seek out positive, healthy friendships.
Discuss the issue with the teacher, coach or others who can monitor the situation,
And encourage peer groups to intervene when bullying happens.
Do NOT tell them to ignore it.
It is a serious situation, and most likely avoidance hasn't or won't work.
Listen and bolster their sense of self-worth, support their strengths,
And guide them to focus on the positive aspects and people in their lives.
Do NOT try to fix it for them.
Keep the trust and confidence of the child who comes to you - they came for advice.
DO tell other adults who can help, but
Confronting the offender or her/his parents will probably not be effective.
Listen and brainstorm possible solutions with the child-
Empower them in the response.
Parents' Guides to Online AppsInternet Matters:Growing Up Online: A Guide for ParentsFamily Online Safety Institute: Good Digital ParentingParenting in a Digital Age:Understanding Kids and Technology
Winston-Salem Police DepartmentHelpful WSPD links:brochure:
BOOKS MATTERKids' books on bias, diversity, and social justice.(young child to young adult)
The WS/FCS Psychological Services bloghas articles, information and links to resources on many issues including bullying, empathy, coping skills, and self-esteem.
Children's Fiction on Bullying (ages 0-12)
Pacer's National BullyingPrevention CenterBOOK CLUB(PreK thru High School)Contact Us:Kathy FitzJefferies, Program ManagerPhone: 336.703.6730 ext. 1Fax: 336.661.6401Monica Reaves, Administrative Asst.Phone: 336.703.6730 ext. 0Fax: 336.661.6401
